Pope John Paul II once said, "The great danger of family life, in the midst of any society whose idols are pleasure comfort and independence, lies in the fact that people close their hearts and become selfish." The Apostle Paul writing to the Corinthians stated, "Love it is not self-seeking,"(NASB).
Have you ever watched children playing together in a playroom? Inevitably one of more of the children will say in a loud voice, "MINE!" The children are laying claim on a toy they feel is theirs. If we are watching this situation, we would probably say that child is being selfish or self-seeking.
It is the hope that as we grow older we tend to be less territorial; we no longer act with a selfish attitude, but we learn the value of sharing. It is the hope that as adults we don't feel like we have to have it MY way! It is the hope that as adults in a family, we know the value of sharing our time, our money, our belongings and our heart.
A person who is self-seeking is only concerned about themselves and getting what they feel they deserve. Self-seeking people often cut in front of us on the road, they are concerned about being first. A selfish, self-seeking person does not listen to others because they believe their point of view is all that really matters. The motto of a selfish self-seeking person is like an old fast food commercial, they want to "have it my way."
Christians have a great role model of true love in Jesus Christ. In John 15:13 we can read these words, "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends." Christ considers us friends. He laid down his life for us. Real unselfish love, focuses on others before self.
It is my belief, if all people would daily give of themselves in serving others, our world would change dramatically. People would be expressing caring and sharing. May we all commit today to an unselfish attitude? Next week we will review how love is not provoked.
Family Encouragement Corner is a weekly inspirational thought from Richard Holmes. Holmes serves as a chaplain at Shaw Air Force Base.
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